1. The past is gone forever
Do not live in the nightmares of former times or under the shade of what you have missed. Save yourself from the ghostly apparition of the past. Do you think you can return the sun to its place of rising, the baby to its mother's womb, milk to the udder, or tears to the eye? By constantly dwelling on the past and its happenings, you place yourself in a very frightful and tragic state of mind. Reading to much into the past is a waste of the present.
2. Doing good to others gives comfort to the heart
The person who benefits from an act of charity is the benefactor himself, by seeing changes in himself and his manners, by finding peace, by watching a smile form on the lips of another person. An act of charity is like a perfume. Its benefits the user,the seller,and the buyer. Who are threatened by misery, fear and grief, occupy yourself in the betterment of others. Help others in different ways through charity, hospitality, sympathy and support. And doing so, you will find all the happiness that you desire.
3. Repel boredom with work
Those who have nothing to do with their lives are the same people who spend most of their time spreading rumours and falsehood, mainly because their minds are devoid of beneficial thoughts. when you find yourself to be idle, prepare for depression and despair, because idleness allows your mind to wander in the past, the present and the future with all of their difficulties. Therefore, my sincere advice to you is to perform fruitful acts instead of being idle, for idleness is a slow and veiled form of suicide.
Destroy boredom by working. when you apply this simple precept alone, you will have traveled at least fifty percent of the way towards happiness. Look at farmers, carpenters and the bread-maker, and observe how, when they are working. They recite words as melodious as the singing of birds, because they are content. Afterwards observe yourself and how you toss and turn on your bed while wiping away your tears, always miserable, always torturing yourself.
The pen has dried, the pages have been lifted : all events that shall come to pass have already been written.
"Nothing shall ever happen to us except Allah has ordained for us" (Qur'an 9:51)